EDUCATION: HOW SHOULD PARENTS RAISE THEIR CHILDREN?

EDUCATION: HOW SHOULD PARENTS RAISE THEIR CHILDREN?

Regarding raising children, I have no say, since I am not a father. But I believe Christian leaders have constructed the wrong narrative for years. Sunday (06/16/2024), my pastor presented babies. All very beautiful. However, he said some things that I disagreed with, such as, for example, that parents don't raise their children to be upset, to make mistakes. And what I see in Christian homes is that parents really raise their children with this purpose: never make mistakes, otherwise you will cause a lot of disappointment to your parents, you will be a disappointment. And this is wrong! How can it be built in the head of a child/adolescent that they can never make mistakes, fail, get a low grade, etc., since this will destroy their parents!? This is cruel to the psychology of a child/adolescent. We are human, therefore, we make mistakes. Plus, you don't raise your kids to live in a bubble. Your children will grow up and discover other horizons, other worlds and you, responsible, have to be by their side to guide, mediate with the world. Your child may grow up and want to be a soldier, an engineer, a dancer, an artist. Your child may grow up and want to be a Christian, Candomblesist, Umbandist, Buddhist. Your child can grow up to be straight, homosexual, bisexual. What you can't do is for your child to grow up and not have a father or mother present. And, dear reader, your child will make mistakes, just as you made mistakes (when you were young) and have been making mistakes. Avoid creating expectations in your children: “My son will be a great pastor!”, “My son will never stray from the Lord’s paths!” etc. Raise your child to be a good, hard-working, respectful citizen.

 

Raphael Paiva

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