APRIL FOOLS' DAY: WHO ARE YOU IMPORTANT TO? ARE YOU REALLY IRREPLACEABLE?

APRIL FOOLS' DAY:

WHO ARE YOU IMPORTANT TO?

ARE YOU REALLY IRREPLACEABLE?

Who are you important to?

 

Who do you miss?

 

In times of crisis, who are you sure that if you send them a message, they will come and talk to you?

 

Who remembers you down to the smallest detail? Example: Your 'friend' went on a trip and brought you that little souvenir worth R$1.99.

 

Who, when they meet you, insists on your handshake, hug and/or kiss?

 

Who do you know that they insist on your presence, and when you are not there, they send you a message asking what happened, if everything is okay?

 

Have you noticed that, many times, you are the only one who cares? You meet your 'friend' and they don't care at all about contacting you. The most they can do is say 'Hey there!'. But you are always willing to do anything. So, I ask you:

 

Has it been worth it to be (try to be) good all the time?

 

Has it been worth it to be (try to be) empathetic all the time?

 

Has it been worth it to try to be the best at everything: brother, friend, professional, Christian?

 

Has it been worth it to be the famous 'jack of all trades'? Everything that the 'friend' asks, you have and/or are willing to do.

 

Dear reader: YOU ARE NOT IRREPLACEABLE!

 

Everything in EXCESS is bad, even being too good. When someone tries to be nice all the time, they are seen as 'boring', 'a jerk'. When someone is too good, they tend to be made a fool of by others. When someone is too honest, they are seen as an ‘idiot' (Note: I prefer to be an 'idiot' than to have the 'Brazilian way'). When someone jokes too much, many will not understand, especially because we live in a lying FREEDOM. We live in a false freedom of expression, false freedom of opinion, false sexual freedom, false religious freedom. People say 'BE YOURSELF!'. And, when you are yourself, people move away, because it may look bad for them. (And, in all honesty, there is nothing worse than when you are being yourself around a ‘friend’ and the ‘friend’ tells you to lower the volume, laugh less, control yourself, joke less. At that moment, it ruins the mood! After all, many times, it is the ‘friend’ who encourages you, since he doesn’t have the courage to be himself).

 

In fact, people tend to exclude anything that is too easy. Example: You live in a condominium that offers "free" kickboxing classes. There are an average of seven students per class. If you go to a paid gym, the fighting class is full. I'll give you my own case: I'm a teacher and I always try to do my best (I think I do!). Some students and even those responsible for them TEND to underestimate this.

 

Conclusion:

DISPAWN! Give yourself some time! Don't comment, don't like, don't share, don't post, avoid excessive conversations and jokes, avoid compliments... and watch the magic happen. However, this magic can have positive or negative results. The latter is more likely and you have to be willing to know that, for most people, you are just another acquaintance, or worse, you are nothing. The bad thing about the "too good" "jack of all trades" person is that you think that others should behave that way with you (And I think they should, lol). But, most of the time, it won't happen. As the new generation says: 'I am not obliged to do anything!'

 

Anyway... just one more thought!

 

April 1st, 2025

Raphael Paiva